DISCIPLINE YOUR ANGER

Anger is a valid emotion. It’s only bad when it takes control and makes you do things you don’t want to do.”

– Ellen Hopkins

In the spectrum of emotions like happiness, sadness, guilt, frustration, there is one emotion that we all dread. Its Anger. But unlike other emotions it is also an absolute normal emotion. It is a primal tendency, but necessary for survival. Some people experience it more intensely and more often as compared to other people. It could vary from slightly irritating to uncontrollable fury. There is nothing wrong to experience these feelings. Every day we come across plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended making ourselves vulnerable to a behavior that is self-destructive and could be hurting others as well. Probably for some, anger also manifests itself into aroused feelings of guilt as they have been conditioned that feeling/expressing anger is not good.

But the good thing about Anger is, if, expressed in an appropriate way it can rather help you to having your needs met, without hindering the needs of others. It can also lead to stronger relationships and more satisfying situations.

Just like any other emotion, Anger also brings about certain changes in our mind, body and thoughts. Like,

The body may show its discomfort in ways like, Stomach gets tight/upset, faster heart beat, Clenching fists, Feeling flushed, Pressure on temples, Sweaty palms, Clenched jaw……..

The mind may contemplate itself by engaging itself in, blaming others, taking everything personally, Assuming, Overeating, drinking, Driving recklessly, Taking drugs, Looking for fights, Feeling outraged…..

There could be a merry-go-round cycle of thoughts for the person on whom you are angry like for eg.,You did that on purpose, You wanted to hurt me, You deserve this, You never even asked me, You’re being unreasonable, You think you’re so good, I’ll show you, You started it…

And there is you get trapped into the vicious cycle of Blame- Game

The emotional expression of anger may includeEmbarrassment, Excitement, Disappointment, Jealousy, Fear, Helplessness, Sadness, Feeling Left-out, Inferiority complex, Self – righteousness, Intolerance…

The physical expression of anger could be like Throwing something, Kick someone or something, Get in someone’s face, Shoving, grabbing, hitting, Break something, Call someone names, Give someone a dirty look, Silent treatment, Get others to “gang up”, Spread rumors…

So, on face of it ANGER appears as,

A- arrogance

N- negative thoughts

G – growing intolerance

E- extreme behaviour

R- reaction

Some one has rightly quoted “Anger is one word short of Danger”

Before making it a dangerous state of mind, lets manage it and understand that I don’t have to hold on to my anger,

Just like watching television and surfing the channels pause for a minute before moving to next, similarly Watch Your Thoughts and Think,

IF I ACCEPT, all the above precondition, HURRAY!! You have done a great job and have become

It’s now easy, this simple 5 STEPS will help to TAME YOUR ANGER ,

  1. Know what pushes your buttons.
  2. Know your body’s anger signs.
  3. Stop and think!
  4. Cage your rage…it’s your choice.
  5. Decide what to do.

Expressing your negative emotion in right way is a choice, If all the above steps are FOLLOWED, your ANGER will become,

A – AMICABLE

N – NORMAL

G – GENTLE

E – EMPATHY

R – RECEPTIVE

Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” – Aristotle

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Hemlata Suri
5 years ago

Very straight , crisp and valuable…would surely be using it for my reference.

healingnest2020
5 years ago
Reply to  Hemlata Suri

Thank you mam

Dr. Anubhav Rathi
Dr. Anubhav Rathi
5 years ago

A complex topic has been very nicely and lucidly explained.
A ready reckoner on ‘what to do when you are feeling angry’

healingnest2020
5 years ago

Thank you

Deepika
Deepika
5 years ago

Nice article

Deepika
Deepika
5 years ago

Nice article

Deepika
Deepika
5 years ago

Nice article

Deepika
Deepika
5 years ago

Nice article

Deepika
Deepika
5 years ago

Nice article

healingnest2020
5 years ago
Reply to  Deepika

Thank you

Deepika
Deepika
5 years ago

Nice article

Chaitra
Chaitra
5 years ago

Came to me at the right time. Well explained to control anger…
Thank u

healingnest2020
5 years ago
Reply to  Chaitra

Thank you mam

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