DON’T WORRY STAY HAPPY

We all are worried for small things in life but what if it becomes disproportionate. Generally we try to be too predictable for the situation/ events. The thought of uncertainty itself creates Worry. Coming across a situation which we have difficulty coping, makes us feel WORRIED.  Worry is a mix of fear and anxiety. To an extent worry is good when it prompts us to have an action plan for the problem. But if you are most of times feeling preoccupied with stress and tension and your thought process is stuck in the cycle of WHAT- IF’s , you are in grip of “Worry syndrome”. This syndrome not only affects our day to day life but literally paralyses the thought process and drains out our emotional energy. An attitude of Pessimism starts incubating. Studies have shown that constant worriers are more prone to depression, anxiety and have higher risk of developing cardiovascular diseases and may also experience psychosomatic symptoms like headaches, stomach problems, back pain, low energy etc. to name a few.

Constant worry blocks our energy to work in the right direction, it disables us to take the corrective steps to solve the problem. It exaggerates and turns a mole into mountain hill. A worried mind constantly finds something to feed that is not positive. So, it is important to understand how to give piece of mind to our worried thinking:

1. Create a Worry Period

“Worry is a misuse of the imagination.” Dan Zadra

Constant worry not only impacts physical health but also lower our efficiency level and many of our day to day activities. So, instead of worrying for whole day create a time period to worry. Choose a set time and place for it, for e.g. like from 7:00 to 7:20 pm in my room on the couch I will have my worry time. During this period, you can worry for anything. Any anxious thought during the daytime, coming to your mind can be penned down and considered in the Worry Period. 

• Question your Situation

“Sometimes a situation you think of as “bad” is actually putting you on a path to the best thing that could possibly happen to you”

When you feel that you are stuck or stumbling in a situation change the angle of it. Think what is one thing that is good in that situation. Ask yourself is there a more positive and realistic way of looking at the situation? Don’t generalise the situation as negative, just reassess the situation you will realise that all things aren’t that bad they appear.

• Take away the power –

“Instead of worrying about what you cannot control, shift your energy to what you can create.” Roy T. Bennett

Any thought in our mind become strong and dominating only when we give power to it. In a day we come across around 50,000 thousand thoughts but we get stuck only on some thoughts. Happy thoughts make us feel good and happy and sad and anxious thoughts breed the same. The amount of attention that we give decides the energy of that thought (positive/ negative). Our mind is like a garden, the seed that we sow, that plant will grow, our thoughts are the seeds of mind. The thought that you will sow will grow and get the power. So, Grow the seed of positivity.

• Train yourself to relax

“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.” Dalai Lama

When we are anxious or worried, the heartbeat and breathing is fast, muscles are tense, blood pressure shoots and many other symptoms appear. The opposite happens when we are relaxed. It is important to understand that after one point, worry serve no good to us, it only worsens the situation. Practise relaxation techniques as part of daily routine. Like deep breathing, meditation etc. Fix few minutes of a day for yourself when you will sit and do nothing and you will notice that gradually your wandering mind will also come at peace and this “me- time” will give tranquillity.

It is important to talk out the worries else you will be emotionally overwhelmed. But it is important to talk to someone who can guide being non-judgemental and help you gain clarity of your thoughts and situation.

NIDHI